Here’s a great song to get us in the mood for this week’s discussion:
“I Don’t Know What I’m Doing More Than Half of the Time”
Is it not allowed for me to admit that?!
As a mental health therapist, people seek out my advice, support, encouragement, and feedback specifically. I think sometimes, clients believe that therapists, doctors, physical trainers, etc. “have it all figured out”.
Well they don’t!
No one does!
Before you leave this post, curse me for being uneducated or amateurish, know that this is a therapy technique and life skill that I believe everyone has to understand and practice. There is great strength and empowerment that comes from admitting you don’t know what the hell you’re doing. If you don’t know what you are doing you are free to:
- Make mistakes and not confuse them with failures
- Ask for help when you need it
- Continue to learn until you die
- Strive to be the best person you can be
- Shoot for goals that seem unattainable
- Achieve your wildest dreams
- Admit to others when you have made a mistake
- Try new things
And so much more! Imagine your how your life might change after admitting this to yourself. Expectations melt away; fear of failure pops like a balloon, and the need to look perfect is no longer a requirement. You get points just for showing up. You have already achieved something. You did it, and your peers who were too afraid of looking dumb or doing it wrong are still on the couch. Your life will be richer and more fun. You have immediately turned into someone whom others want to be around. There is no room for judgment of yourself or others.
Now, say it out loud, “I don’t know what I am doing “.
Good job. Now repeat.
I think you’ve got it.
Feel free to share how admitting you don’t have all the answers has impacted your life!
Thanks for reading!
3 thoughts on “I Don’t Know What I’m Doing”
Love this concept. This was probably one of the most useful lessons I learned through therapy, both as client and as therapist. People truly trust me and enjoy being around me more when I am honest, transparent, less fixated on doing things just right, less afraid of failing or looking silly, and more focused on being my most genuine, imperfect, unique self!
Thank you so much for your comment, Jane! So happy your genuine imperfect and unique self is free! Love hearing your experience!
I remember having this conversation with you in the car. It was very eye-opening! I am loving your blog.